Being the mother of the bride can be delightful, frustrating, and confusing all at the same time. It can be unsettling, but it is important to accept that the role has changed since the days when today’s mother of the bride was getting married herself. Luckily, many of the changes are positive ones for the modern mother of the bride (hint: attractive dresses!). Get through planning your daughter’s wedding with a smile by taking these suggestions for the mother of the bride.
The first tip for the mother of the bride is to be sure you feel gorgeous. While the bride is absolutely the star of the wedding day, it is no longer expected that the mother of the bride should look like a frumpy wallflower. No longer is the only option for the mother of the bride a dowdy chiffon dress and shapeless jacket. With all the modern, sophisticated options geared towards mothers, you will certainly be able to find the perfect style that makes you feel fabulous. Try a chic off-the-shoulder dress, or one with crystal detailing, or a knee-length style; as long as it fits the style of the wedding, you can choose any dress that makes you look beautiful. Then take it the next step by getting your hair done, your nails manicured, and treating yourself to some spectacular wedding jewelry. You deserve it!
The next suggestion is to familiarize yourself with bridal trends, most importantly in bridal fashion. Things have changed! If the last wedding you saw was Princess Diana’s, you may be in for a shock. Today’s wedding dresses are more unique, form-fitting, and fashionable than they have been in the past. It can take some time to get comfortable with some of the contemporary styles, especially the more sexy trumpet or sheath gowns, and looking through bridal magazines or on wedding websites may help you get used to the styles you will find when you go wedding gown shopping with your daughter. This is not to say that the bride’s mother should abandon all of her values (there are many moms who simply cannot abide low cut or very fitted wedding dresses), but at the same time, you owe it to your daughter to get caught up on current trends in wedding gowns, veils, and jewelry.
In the past, women often married young and their mothers did the vast majority of the wedding planning. Modern brides are often older and more independent, so don’t be too surprised if your daughter intends to plan the entire wedding herself. A wise mom finds a good balance between offering her assistance with the wedding and respecting her daughter’s taste and decisions, particularly when it comes to matters of style like the bridal gown and wedding jewelry. If you are paying for the wedding, it is reasonable to expect to have some input into the wedding planning; but be careful and do not try to take control of the style of the wedding as you would be setting yourself up for an unpleasant cialis dosage battle with the bride. When the bride and groom are paying for their own wedding, the mother of the bride should always show interest and offer her assistance, but at the same time, try not to take it personally if the couple indicates that they have it all under control. They probably think they are doing you a favor by not expecting anything of you!
Last but not least, cherish this special time with your daughter. It can be difficult for some moms to think of their little girls growing into women and getting married, but a wedding can also be a wonderful bonding experience. Be enthuastic, supportive, offer guidance, and eagerly await that magical moment when your efforts come to fruition and your daughter walks down the aisle a beautiful, radiant bride in her gown, jewelry, and veil. You will know that your love and support helped make that special moment possible.
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