Planning a Grooms Speech
January 9, 2010 by Betty Jane · Leave a Comment
Thinking about what you are going to say for your grooms speech has been in your nightmares ever since you proposed to your bride, a few easy rules will make sure that nobody steals your thunder at speech time. Your visitors need to hear you talk from your soul ; they wish to hear a sincere, well spoken and sometimes funny married man. The tone of the groom’s speech should fall between the bride’s father and the best mans. The brides fathers speech will be more serious and everybody expects the best mans speech will have many funny and slightly humiliating stories.
It is accepted the grooms’ speech is to respect and thank everybody that has attended or helped in preparing the wedding, but you do not want to make it sound like a dull checklist. Although your speech will be prepared in advance, it is vital to pay attention to the bride’s father’s speech and to follow on from there. Before starting your speech make sure that you know where your videographer who is shooting your wedding videos is positioned and every now and then talk to the camera, it’ll come across great in the final production.
The 1st honour and thanks should be given to both sets of parents at the head table by giving the bride’s family the highest respect and thanks for everything that they have done in helping organize the wedding. Thank them for their kind words and for toasting your marriage. It is also expected for the groom to thank the bride’s parents for welcoming him into their family and for accepting his bride’s choice of him as her husband. This is the time that you must also assure them of your utmost devotion to their child and give examples of why you are madly in love with her. Paying special attention to her personality and character traits and only slightly dwelling on her appearance will endear you to the entire audience.
Next you need to give special thanks to your own parents, for everything that they have done in the past and present to permit you the possibility of standing there. Even though all folks know that their children love them it is critical to actually say it during this part of the speech, just make certain that tissues are handy for your mother at this point.
The next part of your speech should be targeted on the guests. Give a general thank you to everybody for attending the marriage and sharing in your special day. It’s not necessary to thank each guest individually, but if there are a few guests that have made an additional effort to attend by traveling a long distance, then it is expected to give special thanks by naming them personally.
The marriage party is the next group to be thanked. The best man, maid of honor, ring bearer and brides maids should all be introduced by name and a mention of their support throughout the marriage planning should be highlighted as each member of the party is introduced. The groom should give a special thanks to his best man. A humorous, but acceptable story should be shared and some explanation as to why you chose him as your beast man and why your friendship is so important should be included.
Lastly the groom should turn to his new bride and tell her how much he loves and adores her, telling her how much he is anticipating spending the rest of his life with her. Most significantly, thank her for saying yes when you proposed. The groom’s speech is meant to be from the heart, so if at this stage it sounds really emotional, so be it. Share some stories about how you met and when you knew that she was the one for you.
If your bride is not going to give her very own speech, where she would thank her bridesmaids and maid of honor, then historically the groom’s speech should end with a toast to the maid of honor and the bridesmaids.
One of the great things about weddings is if you hire a professional wedding video, Sydney based company which has a good reputation and tons of wedding video testimonials to show you, the final production will be something you can treasure for years . As with all weddings there are certain to be some mishaps and it is great if you catch these on video and can relive all day for years ahead. Most marriage video packages will include the preparations through to the reception. Just ensure that the wedding video company that you select is professional enough not only to capture the image but has everything set up so that all the speeches come across clear when watching the final edit.
The Grooms Wedding Speech
January 3, 2010 by Betty Jane · Leave a Comment
Unfortunately the groom wedding speech isn’t a completely free piece of writing – It is there as a way to make sure you don’t leave anyone out. It took me a while to come to terms with this, but beleive me, it really does make your groom’s speech easier and it is meant to be a way to keep all of your guests happy as well as create an atmoshere for the perfect wedding day!
Thank The Right Guests
Generally you should make sure you thank everyone for turning up and anyone resonsible for getting you there on time. Whether that was my lovely bride, my best man, everyone who gave me advice – I made sure to thank them. And don’t forget the father of the bride!
As a side note, groom speeches are the most formal of all the wedding speeches. It is important that it is not as sentimental as the father of the bride speech, nor as funny as the best man’s speech? This doen’t mean you can’t have a joke or two up your sleeve! Click here to learn more: Grooms Wedding Speeches.
Mentioning Your Bride and Family
You should mention how you met (even though everyone has heard it a thousand times!). This always goes down well, and is a great for all of those who have made such an effort to be there on your big day.
Next, I will try to add in anecdotes or praise of my family as it is a good opportunity to show the special people in your life what they mean to you. Even if they didn’t directly help me with the wedding, they still played an important part in my life as a whole.
Here is a quick summary
- Thank the Father of the Bride
- Thank those who have helped organize and plan the event
- Thank the Maid of Honor who has helped your wife through the day
- Thank the groomsmen and the Best Man
- Thank your lovely new wife!
- And don’t forget to thank the guests
Remember that the day and your groom wedding speech should be about the love for your bride and the joy you feel of having all your family and friends around. {It really is about keeping every one of the wedding guests happy. And by finishing with a perfect groom toast to your new bride, it shouln’t be that difficult!Even though I was really nervous about my groom wedding speech, it didn’t take me long to realise that it isn’t too hard to please everybody if you’re careful}!
Click here if you would like to learn how to write a great groom speech: Groom Speech Ideas.
The Groom’s Speech: Six Simple Pointers To Be Effective
June 21, 2009 by Betty Jane · Leave a Comment
If you are like most of us regular folk, public speaking is not something you look forward to. In fact, you may try to avoid public scrutiny. Unfortunately however, this is one occasion from which you can not hide.
The best news is, delivering your groom speech does not have to be as challenging as it might seem. That is, as long as you are not tempted to bolster your nerves with too much punch. Be certain you don’t take too much alcohol until you are safely back in your seat, having delivered your speech.
Here is the main thing you need to know:
Your groom speech revolves around showing appreciation to those who have helped you and your new wife get to this moment in your lives. You will generally speak after your wife’s father.
Here are six points to help you get started:
1. Thank your new wife’s mother and father for raising such a beautiful daughter and entrusting her to your care. Furthermore, thank them for any help they have provided for the wedding and for your new life together.
2. Express Thanks to your own parents for taking care of you and being there for you throughout your life and for any contribution they have made to the wedding and helping you to get started in married life.
It is not a good idea to make fun of either your new wife’s parents or your parents during a wedding speech unless you clear it with them first. Even the most easy going people may not react well to being made fun of on this occasion.
3. Of course, you can’t proceed any further in your speech without thanking your bride. Thank her for being the beautiful person she is, and talk about some of her best qualities. Tell her how much you appreciate her trust in you and her love for you; that you consider yourself to be a very lucky man. Once again, be sweet and do not make fun of your bride to get a laugh. You have not gotten to the honeymoon yet.
4. Next it’s time to thank your best man. Generally, it should be safe to make some jokes about him. So, save your need for laughs until you get to him. Quite often the groom’s speech includes some jocular anecdotes about the best man and or groomsmen, and this can go down very well.
5. The maid of honor, bride’s maids, and flower girls should be next on the list to be thanked. Mention how nice they look and how much easier they made the day for your beautiful new wife.
6. After you have thanked all these people for their contribution to your wedding and to your life, you can thank anyone else who is important to you or your bride: Siblings, aunts and uncles, grandparents, and friends can be mentioned at this time. You can also include any personal messages you want to give.
When you have finished your speech, you can hand the proceedings back over to the master of ceremonies. The best man speech usually follows the grooms speech. Now you can go and have that drink.
