Giving care and raising a baby, managing chores at home, and keeping a career or job can make it almost impossible to give quality time to your partner. This is the time when differences arise and start to harm a good marital bond. But exerting some effort can bring back the fire and fortify your relationship with your husband. Here are some tips that can help both you and your hubby bond well with each other even after having a baby:
1. Keep in mind that both you and your spouse are experiencing obstacles in your parenthood. While motherhood challenge your emotional and physical strength, fatherhood increases your husband’s responsibility to adequately provide for the family. In most cases, it’s communication gap that could result in misunderstandings that might lead to unnecessary disputes and fights. So it is very important to talk to each other about the challenges both of you experience, what both of you feel, then find solutions together.
2. Taking good care and raising an infant is a huge challenge. Be sure that your husband understands this and helps you do handling tasks in the house which were your sole responsibility before the birth of your baby. To make things easier, both of you should help each other and share responsibility. Doing so helps relax both the mind and the body and also helps make your bond become stronger.
3. You and your partner may having clashing ways to dealing with your child. You may be sort of strict with his or her sleeping time, diet, and other habits, but your spouse might be less concerned or show leniency about these things and may only focus on what makes your little one happy. Do not allow such difference in opinion provoke quarrels. Respecting each other’s parenting style is essential. Constant opposition will not help, it’s better to let him deal with his own opinion or decision. For example, if he lets your little one sleep at irregular hours, make sure that you both agree that he’ll be the one to take care of your baby if he or she stays up until dawn or wakes up at midnight.
4. After a baby arrives, having a special time with your spouse becomes very tough. But don’t forget that time, romance, and intimacy are an essential part of a happy marriage. So even if you may have hard times getting intimate now that you have a child, you could at least stay connected through lots of hugs and kisses so you can keep the romance alive.
If you’re having challenging times in your marriage now that you have a baby, consider MARRIAGE Counseling Melbourne to get helpful advice and counselling from an expert.
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