There is nobody who gets married without knowing that it has to be just the two of them. Additional individuals are not welcome to join the marriage. This is the reason why people involved in this type of relationship are normally very jealous. Neither the man nor the woman expects another to take or share their place.
It’s therefore a natural thing to feel outraged when extramarital affairs come into the picture. This is one issue that has caused the breakup of lot’s of marriages especially when they weren’t correctly handled. As a result of the sensitivity of this matter, we would try to find out what could cause this state of affairs and then see how to handle it.
in many these cases, the guilty spouse usually thinks there is something missing in their marriage that they need to find outside. It’s normal to assume that nobody would be searching outside if all they require is available inside. This isn’t a hard and fast rule. We understand that there are certain situations that seem to defy explanation.
It has constantly been surprising to me when I hear that some people don’t have their needs met in their marriage. This immediately suggests inadequate communication in the marriage. When there is adequate communication between couples, the issue of not knowing the partner’s needs won’t come up.
I must also admit that there is a gap between knowing the desire and meeting the desire. It’s now the duty of the spouse to meet these desire and keep their marriage safe. It’s not news that marriage involves a lot of compromises.
So far, we’ve focused on preventing extramarital affairs. As we continue, we would be looking at a situation where a partner is already having an affair. What is the best way to handle this?
Before any other thing, it’s necessary that you think before acting. Your marriage isn’t past saving. You simply need to go about it correctly. My first response is usually to find out how good communication between the couple was. It would be quite difficult for an affair to occur if the couple are truly tight communication wise. This is something I strongly subscribe to.
One great thing to do when you discover the affair is to consult a marriage therapist. You can receive counseling, and also have time to think calmly about what to do. You might need to amongst other things, try to find out what resulted in the occurrence of the affair. I think this is important to avoid a repeat.
One thing you have to bear in mind is that you must forgive your partner if you would make any progress in both fixing your marriage and getting healed from the pain. That your partner was involved in an affair does not indicate that your marriage has ended. You can sincerely rebuild your marriage and still go ahead to build a great one.
Giving up on your marriage isn’t the answer.
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